Being in the gap

The gap is a beautiful place to meet with in life, they are moments that if you harness them and use them for the opportunity they present can completely shift the course of your life, the operative word being ‘if’ you use them.Life so often for many people the feel is laid out before them, they tend to know what is going to happen and the general path they are going to follow and it is all fairly linear line. Yes of course there are little ripples along the way, but in general that line which is life stays fairly true to its course. It usually follows the path of what I call the default life where we go to school, study hard so we can get a safe secure job, then pay taxes, put money into super, meet someone, fall in love, buy a home, have kids and then work hard for the next 30-40 years of your life until one day you can retire and live the so called good life.You might ask…ok so what is wrong with that? And the answer is absolutely nothing if you are truly content with where your life is right now and importantly where this life is going to take you in the future and the level of time, financial, location and opportunity freedom that this life provides for you. Which for most is a lifetime of struggle, a lifetime of wishing to have more time and more freedom and more opportunity to follow a life’s path which matches that of the beat of their heart and of their higher selves calling.This is the path most follow, that single straight line which has been laid out before them by the expectations of society as the way ‘to do’ life and most people just keep following blindly.That is until one of these ‘gaps’ present themselves to you and give you this moment of opportunity and what I more so believe; gives you a tap on the shoulder to sit up and think if what you are doing right now is really what your true purpose or pathway should be.

The gaps are those moments in life where there is a disruption in the normal course of your life. This could manifest as a break up in an intimate relationship. This could be a forced redundancy from work. This could be an unexpected injury or illness. This could be a kind of awakening or new distinction which you just can’t seem to shake out of your mind. This could be a disruption by reading a book or learning a new concept or by witnessing the actions or results of someone else which are at a different level than your own and you can’t but help notice the gap between the game they are playing versus the one you are playing.

However, this gap is created or however it manifests in your life, these are moments to treasure and grab hold of as an opportunity to reassess the reality of the life you are living and your pathway. The question is, are you going to notice this gap and take the gift for what it is? Or are you going to just ignore the gap and just continue on just ‘doing life’, being distracted by the busyness of it all.Over the years, I’ve worked with thousands of people on their finances and in helping them to create and live out the life they desire and I’ve had many occasions when people come to me panicking or feeling depressed because they have just lost their jobs or have been made redundant and when they tell me, they tend to be take back by my response. Here they are expecting me to say “Oh I’m so sorry to hear that” or “it will be ok”, but instead they get a big smile and a massive “congratulations!”, what an opportunity you’ve just been given to truly stop and reassess the path that you are on and the opportunity to set out on a different pathway in life which is more in alignment with their true purpose and calling. If we don’t get these disruptions in life, most people just tend to continue down the path they are on being distracted by the busyness of life and saying to themselves “one day” or “I’ve got to pay the bills”. And of course you have to live and of course money is important, but what if you could re-set your path where not only are you earning money, but you are earning it doing something which lights you up?What if you weren’t just in a relationship where if you were honest with yourself that you are more like friends in a house (or worse acting life enemies) where you had the opportunity to create and be in a relationship with someone that is so deep and exciting and passionate and where you feel aligned at a whole different level.What if you weren’t just living in the level of health and vitality and the body you’ve grown accustomed to and instead you consciously designed a path way to live with so much energy it scares you and in the body where you look in the mirror at yourself and say “hell yeah!, whose smoking? I am!”.The gap is a space of opportunity and pure potential, it is a time for deep reflection and deciding what you want your life to be about.But you don’t have to wait for these gaps to occur unexpectedly. You can and should be creating these gaps for yourself, but first you have to stop just doing life and distracting yourself which is the easiest thing to do and instead learn to create and plunge into the depths of silence and ask yourself some tough questions.I have had both of these types of gaps in my life, ones which were unexpected and came about from breakdowns in relationships which gave me the opportunity to really think and ask questions of myself about who I want to have in my life and the quality of woman I wanted to share life with and how the relationship would look and importantly in order to create that quality of relationships and attract that quality of woman, who I would need to be as a person and partner and how I needed to step up.I have had the moments of a long term business relationship breaking down rapidly and within one foul swoop the path I thought I was on, was removed completely and I have had to ask myself “how did this come about?” What was my doing in this and my learnings?” and then importantly get to the point of asking questions if that was where I was supposed to be and realising that in fact that business breakdown was actually the greatest gift which forced me to get out of the ‘easy’ life path I was on and get more aligned with the calling of my highest self.I have had it in health, and money, and my spiritual development, my relationship with my little girl in the past. But after many moments of just experiencing those gaps due to unexpected shifts in my line of life, I have learnt not to just wait for those gaps and instead to consciously create those gaps of pure opportunity and potential thinking and of letting go of all that is in my life to ask the question of what could be instead.For me I take 2 days every 6 months to reassess every aspect of my life and to put myself in my own gap and ensure life is of my own design and not just something which happens in a straight line. I hope this article is a ‘gap’ creator for you.